Have you ever noticed that an attractive woman becomes unattractive when you find out that she has bad attitude. Have you also noticed some women who aren't attractive but has a good personality becomes attractive? I noticed that with one of my friends. The first time I met her, I didn't find her that attractive. As time passed by, and as I got to know her personality, she became more and more attractive. The reason might be because of her positive attitude and good personality.
According to an article I read in Life magazine entitled "A Reason to Smile", Leslie Zebrowitz, Ph. D., of Brandeis University said that an attractive woman with a displeasing personality does become ugly in time. In a personality test she did with certain objective observers, she found out that men who were judged physically appealing during their youth were most likely to be agreeable and sociable adults. Women on the other hand are very different. Leslie Zebrowitz found out that women who we're sociable when they we're young were considered to be more attractive than those women who were not very sociable during their youth, regardless of their original physical appeal.
So the reason why I'm attracted to my not so attractive friend must be because of her personality. We were already friends since we were kids. She has been my friend for over 14 years. I know that she's really kind and all that but she wasn't really that appealing. Although she wasn't much of a head turner back then, as time passed by, she became more and more attractive. I also noticed with another friend of mine. Actually, were not really that close but she was very attractive. At first she was, but once I got to know her more, her beauty faded away. she wasn't really attractive anymore. I noticed all her physical and personality flaws.
Leslie Zebrowitz said in the article that the way a man looks influences the kind of personality he develops, but the kind of person a woman is influences the kind of appearance she develops. In other words, your personality affects your appeal.
For me beauty isn't really that important. It somewhat is, because I myself wouldn't want to wake up seeing a face that would probably ruin my whole day. But all in all, it doesn't matter whether she's beautiful or not. As long her personality is good, she'll look beautiful.
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