Friday, March 29, 2013

#10 - Personality versus Physical appearance

Have you ever noticed that an attractive woman becomes unattractive when you find out that she has bad attitude. Have you also noticed some women who aren't attractive but has a good personality becomes attractive? I noticed that with one of my friends. The first time I met her, I didn't find her that attractive. As time passed by, and as I got to know her personality, she became more and more attractive. The reason might be because of her positive attitude and good personality.

According to an article I read in Life magazine entitled "A Reason to Smile", Leslie Zebrowitz, Ph. D., of Brandeis University said that an attractive woman with a displeasing personality does become ugly in time. In a personality test she did with certain objective observers, she found out that men who were judged physically appealing during their youth were most likely to be agreeable and sociable adults. Women on the other hand are very different. Leslie Zebrowitz found out that women who we're sociable when they we're young were considered to be more attractive than those women who were not very sociable during their youth, regardless of their original physical appeal.

So the reason why I'm attracted to my not so attractive friend must be because of her personality. We were already friends since we were kids. She has been my friend for over 14 years. I know that she's really kind and all that but she wasn't really that appealing. Although she wasn't much of a head turner back then, as time passed by, she became more and more attractive. I also noticed with another friend of mine. Actually, were not really that close but she was very attractive. At first she was, but once I got to know her more, her beauty faded away. she wasn't really attractive anymore. I noticed all her physical and personality flaws.

Leslie Zebrowitz said in the article that the way a man looks influences the kind of personality he develops, but the kind of person a woman is influences the kind of appearance she develops.  In other words, your personality affects your appeal.

For me beauty isn't really that important. It somewhat is, because I myself wouldn't want to wake up seeing a face that would probably ruin my whole day. But all in all, it doesn't matter whether she's beautiful or not. As long her personality is good, she'll look beautiful.

Sunday, March 24, 2013

#9 Facial Symmetry

Full lips, bright eyes, pointed nose, white teeth, hourglass body. These are the things that makes someone very attractive. It is what makes everyone's head turn. A head turner for short. If you have traits, then you have been given the face of an angel. But even though one possesses all the traits mentioned, if it's not placed in the right position, one would look ugly. This is where facial symmetry comes in.

According to a research made by Little and Jones, which was posted at faceresearch.org, which talked about facial symmetry, says that their are two reasons why people are attracted to symmetrical faces. The first would be the Evolutionary Advantage View. The Evolutionary Advantage view states that the reason why people are attracted to symmetrical face is because people who possess such trait are found out to be more healthy than those who does not have a symmetrical face. Facial symmetry indicates how healthy a person is. The more symmetrical your face is, meaning the features of left side of the face is horizontally aligned with the features of the right side of the face, the more healthy you are. If your face is not that symmetrical, it means that you are not that healthy. The next reason is the Perceptual Bias View. The Perceptual  Bias view says that people who has a symmetrical face are more attractive because the human visual system can process symmetric stimuli of any kind more easily than it can process asymmetric stimuli.

People would most likely choose a mate who has a symmetrical face because of the two reasons stated awhile ago. If you think about it, healthy and fit people does look more attractive than those who are not. They seem to be a more healthier mate. Their off-springs would probably attain the same characteristics as their parent.

Symmetrical faces are found to more attractive than those who are not due to the fact that people with symmetrical features looks more healthier than those who does not. Bearing this in mind, if one is healthy, the probability of having a healthy offspring is pretty high. That offspring would most likely have the same feature as its parent. Making the offspring and the parent both attractive. This would probably be passed throughout the next generation.

#8 Relationship Chess

Breast implants, nose lift, Botox injection, Face lift, liposuction. These are the things that some women are willing to do in order for them to look beautiful. They would do whatever they can just so that they could easily attract the opposite sex through physical appearance. They would try out possible surgical procedures to make themselves be noticed by men.

In an article I read entitled "Playing Relationship Chess" which was written by Kevin Chappell, he talked about a moment in his life where he heard a scream in a mall. He followed the loud shriek. When he reached the area where the scream came, he ended up at a jewelry store. In that store he saw a girl having her ear pierced. That girl was only around 3 years old. What bothered him was that, while the little girl was screaming, the mother told tried to comfort the daughter and said "Don't you want to look pretty?"

That also bothered me. Do women really need to have their ear pierced just so they would look beautiful? Do women really need to do whatever they can just to look attractive? In my opinion, they don't. Physical beauty will fade away through the years but inner beauty won't. Physical beauty does have a plus when it comes to attraction but if one must only look at the physical attributes of a person, the relationship would most likely be short. Just like one of my friend who only courted a girl because she was beautiful. He didn't look beyond the girls skin. He did not know that the girl, sorry for the term, was a bitch. Their relationship ended up in the dumps.

Chappell said in his blog, "While looking pretty is nice, it can provide a woman with a false sense of security and a man with a false sense of accomplishment. Until both men and women begin to give more attention and more importance to a woman's inner beauty. Both sides will lose."

In order to have a good relationship, both the men and the woman must value each other not only through the looks but also through their character. Both sides must be able to value each others thoughts and opinion. They must be able to work their way out of a problem. Both sides must be able to uplift each other during hard times. Even if one does not look that attractive, if they are able to possess the qualities mentioned. Their relationship would most likely bloom and last longer than expected.


Sunday, February 24, 2013

#4 Why inner beauty is more important?

Back during my gradeschool days, I had a crush on this certain girl. I had a crush on her for 7 years. Starting from grade one to grade seven. She wasn't the most beautiful girl there is. She didn't have the hourglass body nor that angelic face. To some of my classmates, those definitions were true. But to me it was all different. I noticed that my friends wasn't really attracted to her. The reason was because they do not find her physically attractive. I noticed that the only thing they noticed was her physical beauty. Me on the other hand focused more on her inner beauty. The reason why I liked her for that long is because of her attitude. She was always positive, she was always kind, and she was always helpful. Because of her attitude, to me, she became very attractive. My classmates didn't know any of her attitude. They focused more on the outer beauty than the inner beauty.

I came upon an article which was found in lovepanky.com entitled "Why is Inner Beauty More Important Than Outer Beauty?which was written by Jessica Dawson. In the article, she defined beauty as something 

that's experienced through a person’s character rather than by appearances. What she meant by this is that inner beauty cannot be seen the first time you see a person. It cannot be presented to you in just one glance. You have to experience it first. It will take a while to actually see a persons inner beauty. For you to see their inner beauty, you have to get to know them. In that process you will find real beauty. When you find their real beauty, they become more attractive to you. 

She also mentioned in her article that almost all the time, we notice first a persons physical appearance. We have over looked the true effort of inner beauty and given all the credit to outer beauty. In short, most of the time, we judge a book by its cover. We look at its cover first, thinking that if the cover is ugly, the story is also ugly. We look past the content of the book. We are missing what truly makes something beautiful; it's content. It is somewhat hard to accept. We still have a chance to change all this. But it must start with our self.

"If you feel beautiful, your own self belief and confidence brings out a glow of beauty that no outer beauty can compete with." - Jessica Dawson 

Your own attitude defines your beauty. Having a positive attitude projects a positive image and a beautiful one. Even if you have an amazing body and a beautiful face, if you have the worst attitude man could ever come up with, you'll look always unappealing to almost everyone. For people who doesn't have an amazing body and facial feautures, as long you a positive attitude, you'll be admired by many. Just look at Nick Vujicic. He was born without limbs but that didn't stop him from being married to the girl of dreams. He's now living a happy life.

Remember, having a beautiful body and a very angelic face doesn't make you a hundred percent attractive. It's not always the outer beauty that needs to be looked at. The moment someone notices how ugly your attitude is, you will be despised by many. Change your attitude. Make it a positive because if you have positive attitude, you'll have a positive image. If you have a positive image, the more you will be admired by many. I myself noticed that with another crush of mine. She was very beautiful but the moment I got to know her, her beauty faded away into oblivion. I never looked at her the same way again. Remember, always have a positive attitude. That will project your real beauty.

#3 Inner Beauty Versus Outer Beauty

I knew someone who was very beautiful. She was blessed with an angelic face. She had full lips, fierce eyes, proportioned face, and an hourglass body. So basically, she was one of the most beautiful girl there is. Everyone was attracted to her. Even the ladies went lesbo for her. Then, something happened. I got to know her more. I was able to know who she really was. Her attitude, how she interact with other people, her own preferences. She was unfortunately, a mean girl. Not only was she mean, she had a lot of vices. She even drinks a lot of alcoholic beverages. She often goes to parties just to get drunk and .....laid. Unfortunately, the more I got to know her, the more her beauty faded away. All her beauty became a waste. I slowly lost interest in her. From that moment on, I learned that you should not like someone on physical beauty alone. It is better to get to know the person more before going all googoo gaga over them. I also learned that inner beauty is better than outer beauty. 

What is inner beauty? According to a blog article that I read at hubpages.com entitled "Inner Beauty VS Outer Beauty" which was authored by a blogger named Eric under the username ESP1983, he mentioned their that an unattractive woman is not looked at by their looks but they are looked at their abilities, mind, and inner traits like being, kind, generous, humble, etc. Men who are more mature (and by that I mean a man who's wise about his choices) would look for a more serious relationship. In that relationship they would focus more on the attitude of a woman. They won't focus much on their physical beauty. An example would be  Pauline Victoria Aughe. That woman was born without limbs but despite her disability, she looked at it as if it was a challenge. She tried whatever she can to overcome her problems. It wasn't an easy task to accomplish but in the end she was able to become successful. She is not as beautiful as Emma Watson or Angelina Jolie, but because of her positive attitude towards life she was able to find the right man for her, have a family, and live a happy life.

Basically outer beauty shouldn't be the only basis when looking for someone attractive. It's the inner beauty that makes someone really attractive. A positive attitude would reflect an attractive appearance. I noticed that with some of my friends. They may not have the perfect face nor body, but because of their positive attitude, they became very attractive.

Eric mentioned in his blog, "But the inside needs more care than the outside; the outside, no matter how hard we work to keep attractive, and no matter how many inventions to “rejuvenate” are out there, it decays with time. The inside never decays unless it is abandoned." In short, what Eric is saying here is that no matter how many times we try putting make up or cosmetics on our face, our face will wrinkle out and become ugly through out the years. But as long as we have a positive and good attitude, we'll always be attractive. 

Remember this women, stop looking for very expensive make-up that you think would make you attractive. Stop saving money for a plastic surgery. You don't any of those to look beautiful. Just have good moral values and positive attitudes. You will end up looking very attractive. Especially to the right man that God has reserved for you.

Friday, February 22, 2013

#2 Elements of an Attractive Face



Faces have been a big factor for us when looking for an attractive person. Some woman would do anything to get the perfect, attractive face. Some women would try putting a lot of makeup to the point that they're face is completely different from their natural look, just so other people would notice and also men would find them very attractive. Some women would go for extreme measures just to look attractive. They would try undergoing plastic surgery that would alter their facial features just to look attractive. Some women would even try to look like barbie. An example of it would be the Ukrainian woman named Valeria Lukyanova who underwent plastic surgery to look a lot like the famous doll called Barbie. She had her ribs removed to achieve the barbie doll figure, she had her breast enlarged that made her body disproportionate, and she puts on enhanced iris contacts to achieve that barbie doll look. She claims that she is the real life Barbie doll. We all know that Barbie is a bit disproportionate so the question now is, what are the elements of a natural attractive face that makes someone actually attractive?

Valeria Lukyanova

According to an article I found called "Attractive Facial Features" at the site called Buzzle.com which was authored by a blogger under the name TinTin, says that facial symmetry is one of the criterion at which we perceive attractiveness of a face. But, facial symmetry is not the only factor that makes someone attractive. There many other facial elements that makes someone attractive. According to TinTin, the ideal size of the forehead of an attractive face should be at least one fourth the size of the whole face. If your forehead does not reach the ideal size, as long as your forehead compliments your face on the whole, it's still attractive. As for the eyes, TinTin mentioned that people with bright, sparkling wide eyes are very attractive. As for the nose, most people prefer narrow, pointed noses. He mentions that a pointed nose is very alluring. As for the lips, TinTin says that full lips looks enticing and luscious. A good set of teeth and jawline play an inportant role in the positioning of your lips. TinTin also mentioned that they key to being attractive is having a clean, zit free, flawless skin. Having a flawless skin gives you that clean look. Skin color doesn't really matter. As long as you have flawless skin, you'll look fabulous. (For more information on this matter, visit the blog post.)

Full lips, proportioned forehead, bright, sparkling wide eyes, narrow, pointed nose, bright, lively smile, who wouldn't be attracted to those features? In my opinion, having those facial features does make someone look very attractive. The reason is because, having those features makes you look healthy and neat. Looking healthy makes you very attractive. It just tells that being healthy means  that the off-springs you'll produce would most likely be healthy as well. 

As TinTin said, "Most of us do not have all the above features, and some of us might not have any. However, that should not be the cause of distress." Being beautiful is not necessarily needed. Remember this, we are all different. We have our own preferences when it comes to beauty. Heck even if your limbless your still considered attractive by some people. A great example would be a woman named Pauline Victoria who was born with no arms nor legs. She may not be complete nor that attractive. But due to her willingness to push forward, her faith that she will still live a normal life, she was able to marry someone. She even has her own daughter. Another great example would be Nick Vujicic. He is also limbless like Pauline. But that didn't stop him from becoming an inspiration to others. He even managed to found the girl of his dreams. He is now married to her. Remember this, you don't need to have those facial features that TinTin mentioned in order for people to be attracted to you. 

Saturday, February 16, 2013

#1 The Hourglass Figure

Ever wondered where men are really attracted to, physically? Big breasts, firm and round posterior, smooth and gorgeous face. Ever wondered what part of the body, men prefer most in a woman? Ever wondered what part they usually notice at first glance?  Ever wondered what grabs their attention the most? I have to admit that breasts always gets my attention. Its a genetic thing. Men are wired to be attracted to it. For all the men reading this, I'm pretty sure I'm not the only who's attracted to the chest are of a woman. Although I am attracted to the chest, a chest that is disproportionate to body is completely weird and somewhat unattractive. Imagine a giant chest attached to a thin body, wouldn't that look weird? I'm pretty sure that almost all men would agree with me that, just the right size of breasts attached to the right proportioned body is what attracts us the most.

According to an article I found at telegraph.co.uk, which was authored by Andrew Hough, says there that men are more focused on the shape of the body than size of the breasts or the facial features. What exactly is that shape that men are attracted to? According the article, the shape that men are most attracted to, is the hour glass shape. The researchers calculated that a waist-to-hip ratio of 0.7, or a waist measuring around 70 percent of the hip circumference. They referred to as the "perfect size" 

The researchers conducted an experiment. The researchers gathered up volunteers and showed them pictures. Various pictures of a woman where her hips, her bust, and her waist were digitally altered. The researchers then, asked the volunteers to rate the image for attractiveness. While the volunteers were studying the digitally altered photos, the researchers were analyzing the movements of the volunteers eyes using a infra-red cameras that tracks the volunteers' eyes. Despite the fact that the men were always drawn to the woman's cleavage, the researchers found out that it was the woman's hips and waist that were in fact what men found most attractive.

Jessica Alba as Nancy in Frank Miller's Sin City: Women with 'hourglass figures and perfect waists' most attractive to men
A great example would be Jessica Alba  who
possesses the hour glass picture

A qoute by Dr. Dixson says that "“Humans simply do not mate randomly.” I myself completely agree with this. The reason why I agree is because even I myself would pick the right person that I would marry. Who wouldn't, right? I wouldn't just point at some random girl and ask her to marry me? Who in the right mind would even do such a thing? What if you suddenly pointed at the worst woman in the world. Now you're forced to marry her. The most despicable woman, man has ever known. That would definitely ruin your whole life. Instead of you, prancing in the meadows with the most beautiful woman you've ever known, you're stuck doing dishes at your house with the most despicable woman on earth.

A tip for women, if you want men to get more attracted to you, try reaching the wais-to-hip ratio of 0.7. If you can't, well at least to be as close to it. This doesn't mean that you have to look like Jessica Alba though. It just means that you can at least try to achieve her figure. The reason is because, it says in the article that men thinks that women who possesses such figure looks most fertile and most likely to produce a healthy offspring.

Sunday, February 10, 2013

Chapter 1


Chapter 1


INTRODUCTION



A. Background of the Study

There are a lot of beautiful women in our society. The physical features that makes a woman beautiful, according to an article the researcher found in eHow.com, written by Lauren Romano are these: small waist, attractive smile, large eyes, long hair, reasonable sized breasts, and a symmetrical face. Many men are attracted to these physical features. Most men think that those are the physical features that women need to have in order for them to be beautiful and attractive. (Source: http://www.ehow.com/list_7442354_physical-features-attract-men-women.html)


According to an article the researcher has found in telegraph.co.uk, which was authored by Andrew Hough, researchers found that most men are highly attracted to women who possesses the hourglass figure and the perfect waist. The researchers calculated the measurement of the perfect waistline. They calculated that the perfect waistline should have the waist-to-hip ratio of 0.7, or a waist measuring 70 percent of the hip circumference. Women who possesses the hourglass figure and the perfect waistline like Marilyn Monroe, Jessica Alba, and Alessandra Ambrosio, where found to have the so called "perfect" body. (Source: http://www.telegraph.co.uk/science/science-news/7965211/Women-with-hourglass-figures-and-perfect-waists-most-attractive-study-finds.html)


What about the face? What should the most attractive face look like or what are the parameters of a beautiful face? Well, according to an article the researcher found in the internet at buzzle.com authored by Tintin, a big forehead; medium sized eyebrows; bright, sparkling, wide eyes, along with thick, long, dark, and curled up lashes; narrow, pointed tipped nose; high cheek bones; full lips; a narrow, tapering chin; Flawless skin; slightly oval shaped face; and prominent dimples, are the things that makes a beautiful face. (Source: http://www.buzzle.com/articles/attractive-facial-features.html)



But despite the fact that physical beauty has been a big factor when being attracted to a person, the researcher have observed that some men are attracted to women that does not qualify with the physical traits that the researcher mentioned awhile ago. For example, most people think that Natalie Portman is an attractive person. For some men, she's not. Some men would rather pick a woman who is far less attractive than Beyonce Knowles, Angelina Jolie, and other celebrities who qualifies the physical traits that the researcher mentioned awhile ago. In short men have different preferences when it comes to choosing the right one. Some men prefer to look beyond the outer layer. Some men are not really interested in the outside but more of the inside. Some men prefer the inner beauty more than the exterior beauty. 

Is inner beauty something ugly people say to themselves to make them feel better? Some people think that that statement is true but what they don't know is that inner beauty plays a big role in determining whether someone is attractive or not. 


According to an article the researcher has read in lovepanky.com entitled "Why is Inner Beauty More Important Than Outer Beauty?", which was written by Jessica Dawson, there it says that almost all the time, men would only notice the outer appearance at first. But that would happen for only a brief moment. Jessica says there that what actually makes someone more attractive is their inner beauty. Men tend to focus more in the outer beauty than the inner beauty. That's one of the reasons why their relationships most of the time ends in the dumpster. (Source: http://www.lovepanky.com/my-life/reflections/inner-beauty-outer-beauty)


As what Jessica said, we've overlooked the true effort of inner beauty and given all the credit to outer beauty. The researcher totally agrees on this because the researcher happen to have done this before. the researcher focused more on the outer beauty. The spark that the researcher had before was once lost when the researcher new more about that certain woman. 



Since outer beauty is not the only factor that makes a woman attractive, and we now know that inner beauty greatly amplifies the appeal of a woman. The purpose now of this research paper is to find out what the other factors are, besides the physical ones, that contributes in making a woman more attractive to men? What are the other traits besides humble, lovable, gentle, kind, and helpful, makes a woman more attractive to men? 




B. Statement of the Problem


This research paper aims to answer this question:

"What are the other factors that makes a woman attractive to men ?"




C. Significance of the Study


To Men. Men tends to overlook the outer beauty of a woman. This research aims to show how inner beauty could help them find the right woman for them. It will  greatly help them in finding the right woman who possesses the ideal attitude and traits that  would probably result in a longer relationship or a full-time relationship


To Women. Some women think that all they need to get the right man for them is by looking good, sexy, and very beautiful. This research aims to shed light to the real factors that attracts the right man for them. It will further expand their knowledge of what actually attracts men to women.


To Teenagers. Teenagers nowadays focuses more on the outer beauty than the inner beauty. This research aims to show teenagers how inner beauty could help them in finding the right guy or gal for them.This research aims to tell them that in order to find the right one for them, they need to have more of the inner beauty than the outer beauty.


To Future Researchers. This research would serve as a great reference for your research, if your research involves the topic love, attraction, and beauty.




D. Scope and Delimitations


This study focuses on finding the other factors that makes a woman attractive to men besides their facial and body features. This research does not include anything on cuteness and hotness. It focuses more on the inner beauty which are the traits like humility, simplicity, etc., and the outer beauty which are, size of the eyes, length of the nose, etc. 


Due to the constraints, the respondents will not encompass all levels, for the respondents will mostly come from male college students of Asia Pacific College, Philippines. Primary data and information are generally only on a local setting.




E. Methodology


This research employs a descriptive method since the researcher aims to describe and to discuss the different factors that makes a woman more attractive in the eyes of men. This method describes data and characteristics about the population. Bearing this in mind, the descriptive method is deemed appropriate for the study.


The information relevant to the study was gathered from various reference materials such as articles and thesis from online sources. Surveys questions handed onto college students were also done to gather more information and to add more references for the findings of the research




F. Terminologies

Overlooked - Fail to notice or consider



Symmetrical - Well proportioned facial features



Tapering - A gradual decrease in thickness or width of an elongated object.



Preferences - The act, fact, or principle of giving advantages to some over others